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You do not have to choose between joy now and freedom later. Use the 70/20/10 rule (70% living, 20% building, 10% giving or growth), automate the 20% first, spend intentionally on what fuels you, and set guardrails so splurges are planned, not guilty.
Last updated: September 30, 2025
Introduction
High earners often bounce between two extremes: splurge and feel guilty, or save hard and feel deprived. The antidote is not a stricter budget. It is a smarter system that aligns money with your values so you can enjoy today and build tomorrow.
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The 70/20/10 Rule
- 70% for living: lifestyle, experiences, everyday needs.
- 20% for building: savings, investing, and future wealth.
- 10% for giving or growth: generosity, education, or passion projects.
This values-driven split keeps money serving your life, not the other way around.
Five Strategies to Live Well Now Without Sacrificing Tomorrow
1) Set a baseline
You cannot optimize what you do not track. Map income, expenses, and your current savings rate. Pick a framework you will actually use:
- 50/30/20: simple, flexible guardrails.
- Zero-based budgeting: every dollar has a job, maximum intentionality.
2) Automate your future first
Do not save what is left after spending. Spend what is left after saving. Auto-fund your 401(k), IRA/Roth, HSA, brokerage, and emergency fund on payday. Treat the 20% like a non-negotiable bill.
If you want a full system for this, start here: Mastering Cash Flow Management and Expense Planning.
3) Use value-based spending
Ask of each purchase: does this drain me or fuel me? Five takeout dinners from fatigue is low value. A weekend reset with your spouse after a brutal quarter can be high value. Spend extravagantly on what aligns with your values, cut ruthlessly on what does not.
4) Build guardrails, not restrictions
Freedom comes from structure. Pre-plan big experiences so you can say yes without guilt:
- Create dedicated travel and hobby funds.
- Set annual experience targets (not just stuff targets).
- Use soft caps to prevent lifestyle creep.
5) Visualize your future self
Where do you live? What does your day look like? How flexible are you? Let that future version evaluate your current choices. When present actions serve future goals, money becomes a tool, not a source of stress.
Key Takeaways
- Alignment beats extremes: the 70/20/10 rule balances joy now and security later.
- Automate the 20% first: build wealth by default, not willpower.
- Spend by values: say yes to what fuels you and cut the rest.
- Use guardrails: plan splurges so they are guilt-free and sustainable.
Facts/FAQ
How do I adjust 70/20/10 if my income is lumpy (bonuses or RSUs)?
Automate the 20% from base pay, then route a fixed percentage of each bonus or equity event to building and pre-planned experiences. That keeps lifestyle steady while wealth compounds.
What goes in the 10% “giving or growth” bucket?
Generosity, education, and passion projects. Think courses, certifications, charitable giving, or funding a creative pursuit.
Is 70/20/10 right for every household?
It is a starting point. If you are catching up, consider 65/25/10 for a season. If you are ahead, 75/15/10 can work. The best framework is the one you can live with consistently.
How do I avoid lifestyle creep?
Pre-commit your raises: 50% to building, 50% to living. You will feel the upgrade and accelerate your future.
What if emergencies derail my plan?
Protect the 20% by keeping a funded emergency reserve. When shocks happen, you tap the reserve, not your investment plan.
Internal Links
- Mastering Cash Flow Management and Expense Planning: Build a simple system that makes the 70/20/10 rule automatic.
- How to Save 10+ Hours a Month with a Simple Automation System: A practical automation blueprint for routing your “20%” on payday.
- Reduce Financial Stress Fast with a Control-First Playbook: If money stress is driving the guilt or deprivation cycle, start here.
- Year-End Money Conversation With Your Partner That Actually Works: Use this structure to align on guardrails and intentional spending.
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If you want joy now and freedom later, do not aim for perfection. Install a system: automate the 20%, define your values-based “yes” categories, and set guardrails that keep spending intentional.
If you want help turning this into a real household operating system (cash flow, automation, taxes, equity comp, and goals), that is what we do at Tailored Wealth.
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Disclaimer
This content is for educational purposes only and is not tax, legal, or investment advice. Consult your professional advisors for guidance based on your specific situation.